Twitter user @Smoochie_Dk (Photo: Twitter)
A South African woman took to Twitter yesterday to describe being raped by her father, uncle and their friend at age 15 because she is a lesbian.
Twitter user @Smoochie_DK told of how she was attacked one day by all three the same day.
She said that her father told her he was going to teach her that she is a woman, not a man. ‘I knew what he was on about because my father hated the fact that I am a lesbian,’ she said. ‘He was actually homophobic.’
I was 15 years old when my father came into my room intoxicated and forcefully had sex with me. I never thought a father could do something like that to their child, their own blood.
— Mubizana (@Smoochie_Dk) July 29, 2018
She was lying in her bed at the time, and did not initially understand why her father was undressing. He then ordered her to take off her clothes.
Her father threatened to accuse her of seducing him should she ever report him to the police.
She begged him not to rape her, but instead he started slapping her.
‘I was young and couldn’t fight him back, I was even afraid to scream… He took off my clothes and then pushed me into the bed,’ she said.
I was young and couldn’t fight him back, I was even afraid to scream so I couldn’t, he took off my clothes and then pushed me into the bed, by that time I was fully naked and he was wearing his t-shirt but nothing to cover his private parts.
— Mubizana (@Smoochie_Dk) July 29, 2018
Her father then raped her. ‘Every time I close my eyes I remember what my father did to me and I always blame myself for everything that happened,’ she said of the horrifying assault.
‘I kept on crying and crying. It was so painful’
He then left the room, as she lay in bed distraught. She said: ‘I kept on crying and crying and it was so painful and yet so heartbreaking.’
The woman went on to describe her rape by her uncle and his friend, which happened later that same day.
The two men arrived at her home claiming to be looking for her father. Her uncle entered the bathroom where she was washing herself naked at the time.
‘Instead of him saying “sorry” and return to his friends he came closer to me and spank my ass,’ she said. ‘I started crying because it reminded me of what happened earlier and had to ask him to stop what he was doing.
‘I then knew my uncle was going to rape me too.’
He said “don’t worry mchana, angeke ngikulimaze” I then knew my uncle was going to rape me too, I tried to scream this time but his friends too were as bad as him and they helped him rape.
— Mubizana (@Smoochie_Dk) July 29, 2018
She said that she was held down and overpowered. After her uncle raped her, his friend did the same.
She said the incident left her severely traumatized: ‘I felt helpless, useless and like I could just die. Why didn’t they just kill me and save me from this pain? I’ve tried to kill myself several times because this pain is too much.’
Neighbor took her to police station
The woman said she went to her neighbor’s house that night as she could not sleep. Her neighbor took her to the police station, and the men were arrested.
Only the uncle and his friend were ultimately convicted and sentenced, however. The woman claimed that her father is still a free man.
I became a bad child in my family, my paternal family, everyone called me names, saying I hated my father because he left my mother. They said “ngine nhliziyo embi” and that I was “ugly” some said “ngiyivezandlebe”.
— Mubizana (@Smoochie_Dk) July 29, 2018
The woman described the effect that the rape had on her sex life.
‘Every time I find myself a new girlfriend I have to explain myself “Why am I not a virgin,”‘ she said. ‘Sometimes I’d just stop in a middle of a “hot sex round” because it reminds me of what my father, uncle and his friend did to me.
‘It reminds me of everything I should forget about, it brings back… bad memories.’
Her story received an outpouring of support from her followers.
You’re such a strong human being and deserve all the happiness on the planet. 💕
— tazz 💞 (@girl_dqmn) July 29, 2018
This thread is so heartbreaking. 😔 I am so sorry. I pray you find healing. 💖
— Barbie (@LueMfobo) July 30, 2018
You’re so strong my dear. I hope the government and social workers can read your story and use you in terms of healing those who have faced your ordeal. Be strong,God loves. He’ll place in a good space one day.
— Lubabalo (@Lubabal86192232) July 30, 2018
I’m so sorry. Know that none of what happened is your fault…You did NOTHING WRONG!& please seek help, angel❤ @Smoochie_Dk I am praying for you & know that God’s plan for your life includes wholeness. It includes freedom from all that pain & hurt. And it includes joy&peace🙇
— Sthandiwe Msimang (@Stha_Msimang) July 30, 2018
The practice of using so-called ‘corrective rape’ against lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people has been widely reported in South Africa. In 2011, Human Rights Watch issued a report, drawn from interviews with 120 subjects. It found that many women live in constant fear of physical or sexual violence.
GSN has reached out to @Smoochie_Dk for comment.
Also on Gay Star News:
Japanese politician Mio Sugita: Stopping LGBTI suicides is ‘low priority’
Prosecutors will not charge Ed Buck for young gay escort’s death
